AITAH for telling my husband he will never be allowed in the delivery room with me again

I 28F and my husband 32M (I’ll refer to him as Shawn) recently had our first child, the pregnancy went smoothly and Shawn was amazing though out. The issues started when I went into labour, l was full term, 40 weeks 5 days with a big baby 9lb 7oz and the labour was AWFUL, it started at around 2 in the morning, I woke With pain it was manageable but very uncomfortable, I wasn’t at the point of needing to go to the hospital as in the uk you have to be at least 4cm dilated before they admit you and my contractions weren’t close enough or long enough, Shawn refused to get out of bed to support me, stating that “it’s not proper labour yet and I need my sleep ready for when it is”. I went downstairs and things quickly progressed, now I was in absolute agony and trying to shout up to him to come downstairs, finally at around 7.30am (5 and a half hours after it started) he came downstairs, we made our way to the hospital and I was in active labour for 10 hours, Shawn was in and out of the room, going to get himself coffee or food, or going to make a phone call, he left the room probably 10 times, (once an hour for around 20 minutes each time) every time a different excuse. The worst part comes next…. I delivered my beautiful baby boy, luckily Sean was in the room, I tore pretty badly and needed stitches, Shawn said to the male dr who was stitching me up “do you think you could add a couple more stitches for me mate”, clearly expecting a laugh but the room fell silent. The Dr then said “that could cause lots of issues for the patient so no absolutely not” and Shawn remained silent. I was mortified, embarrassed, angry and so so upset because Shawn knows that for me (I have a history of SA) having a male dr down there would be a very scary triggering experience for me and instead of consoling me he made the situation so so much worse. I’ve told him that in future if we have more children I don’t want him present and I want my mum instead he is upset and has apologised saying it was nerves making him act that way but I can’t get over how let down I feel AITAH