Can't get hard, am I asexual?

First off, I'm a male and definitely feel 100% attraction to females, and definitely not attracted to males, like 0% not even the slightest, no question about it at all... Don't ask me.

I frequently masterbate, daily, to porn. Maybe I've rewired my brain, but I've tried having sex with a woman on a few occasions, and it was completely different. (Even after abstaining from porn/masterbation for two weeks).

A woman is just so soft in her mouth and down there, and everything is slippery, that it's completely a different experience. I'm used to using my hands more tightly and I do it very fast. (I masterbate with my foreskin covering the head, so no lube needed, not with the hand directly, that would be painful without lube).

So one is slow, slippery and soft, the other is tight, dry and very fast. It is such a different feeling that I have zero interest in sex at all, even though I had an illusion of it before trying sex.

I feel so turned off that as I start associating what real sex feels like, it's almost like I no longer want to watch porn and masterbate anymore because it reminds me of what real sex feels like and how unenjoyable it has been each time. (Even though before I ever had sex, I'd never be able to go a day or two without pornography/masterbation).

The only enjoyable part of sex, is just making the woman happy via other means, hands, toys etc., but it doesn't sound like a long term stable situation if I'm not able to get hard.

Does it make me asexual that I completely hate the feeling of sex, but I enjoy or used to enjoy masterbation? And not sure what to do about it.

Personality wise, I have always been 100% asocial, introverted, withdrawn, closed, just uninterested in people in general. Just always to myself, I live alone. But it would have been good to enjoy sex at least once in a while if it felt like what I expected, but it wasn't.