Feeling a bit gaslit…

My exec is notorious for being vague on tasks for the team for big events, like onsites or social events. When I go to present them options they are ultra critical and reveals ideas/ parameters that they never communicated. They also are very particular about certain things that they won’t ever express to me until I’ve already sunk a lot of time into something.

To prevent myself from spending hours of wasted time, I tried yesterday to ask them questions about team budget and certain preferences.

They got frustrated and told me that I “need to be more empowered to make decisions”.

I’m feeling very gaslit because when I do take the lead I end up getting everything ripped apart. I don’t think it’s too much to ask for parameters to save time.

Has anyone else gone through something similar or have advice? Thank you for listening.