I(31M) virgin but wife(28F) has had several sexual relationships. Feeling betrayed
TL;DR: I wanted a love marriage and met a girl at the library. We quickly fell in love and got married within a month. However, I didn’t ask her about her past before marriage. On our wedding night, she revealed she had been with other men before, which broke my heart. I’m struggling with the thought of her past and feeling depressed. I love her, but I can’t get over this issue. What should I do?
Full Story:
So before judging me, let me clear that I was saving myself for marriage.
This story is crazy because our wedding happened within a month. So this year i had a resolution that i'll go to the library for reading books so I joined a new library. The first day when i went a beautiful girl came and sat beside me. I saw that she was reading atomic habits which i had already read. So i started the convo telling her about the book. Then our convo continued and we exchanged our numbers.
Now the thing is i always wanted a love marriage but i never got a girl of my choice like totally 7 girls have proposed me throughout my life but none of them shared my values so i turned them down and i have never been in a relationship too. So my parents were looking for a girl through matrimony sites even though i had told them not to.
So this girl also told that her parents were looking for a boy in matrimony sites. Within a week our interests and personality matched and we fell in love(it's crazy ik). So we told our parents since both of us wanted a love marriage. And our stars and all those things were checked and the pandit said either marry within a month or we will have to marry after 2 years cuz there's some issue with our stars etc and all those things which went above my head.
So our parents rushed and we got married prev week. But i did a mistake. I forgot to ask bout her past. Now when we got into bedroom i was so excited for my first time. After some kissing i asked her "should we do "everything" tonight? Or during honeymoon? Are you physically and mentally ready for that cuz i've heard first time is pretty troubleful for many people." So she laughed and said "I've done this many times we could do it today."
This line shattered my heart into pieces i could still hear her saying this. My eyes were covered with tears at that moment and she asked what was wrong. I told her i was a virgin and was waiting for someone like me for marriage and i said i am not ready now we could do it later till then i have to make my mind accept this.
Then later i tried to forget but wasn't able to do so and yesterday we did the "deed". But when i was doing, the thought that some other men had "satisfied" my wife gave me an ick and for me it wasn't enjoyable at all. Im feeling so depressed. She's a good girl and is pretty, witty, funny, selfless, helps me, loves me, everything but this thing is getting over my mind as i was brought up hearing the purity of relationship and marriage whereas she had been with over 3 guys physically. What do i do i cant divorce her im feeling so depressed. Ik its my mistake that i didnt ask her this but now i cant do anything