How do you deal with judgemental gossiping Christians

I was raised in a Christian household, since I was a kid everyone gossiped about eachother my grandparents who are also pastors used to say my mom ruined her life dealing with black men when we are all black (Dominican) now I’m grown and have a family of my own and am now the new topic of discussion amongst my family. I eloped and got pregnant with twins and since I’ve had them I get dirty looks and ignored from family members. It’s so bad I’m considering cutting them all off instead of my mother and grandparents, my uncle goes online berating democrats and goes to church like nothing I’m tired of the hypocrisy of it all! How do you confront these kinds of people for their behavior