Are you ever impressed by how INSTINCTIVE they reflect shit (f.ex. to not have to apologize)?

I'm sick in bed. As I am lying, my mother asks if I might want some tea. Sure, I say, thinking she will put the cup onto the table close to the door. Well, guess again: she brings the cup, turning on ALL the lights. BRIGHT ASS OVERHEAD LIGHTS! Of course, I scream out in pain

(Mother): "oh God! You can't scream at me like that!"

(Me): "the lights! I screamed because of the lights! They hurt!"

(Mother): "well. How else will I put the cup onto your table? You know. I'm not the youngest anymore. That scream really scared me. You can't scream like that"
(Me): "It wasn't meant personal! I'm screaming because I AM IN PAIN!"
(Mother): "Well that doesn't mean you have to do it so loud. I was just trying to bring you a cup of tea."

She then proceeded to meander around with some table lights, before I managed to get her to fuck off from my room. No "sorry", no acknowledgement of her making a mistake-

Also how they just...keep dragging shit out? Like. A few hours ago, she woke up with an infected eye (Karma?) and I joked about not going near here, cause she already infected me once. I swear to God. Since then, this woman keeps throwing statistics & websites at me, to "explain" how she couldn't be the one to infect me. And when I tried to say "It was a joke, Ma", she simply says "Oh that wasn't a joke. And I want to be sure you know right, before you accuse someone like that again" ?!?!?!