I don’t think I’ll ever get a rescue again

I’ll preface this all by saying I love our dog, she’s ours and we won’t be rehoming her or neglecting her or anything like that. We love her and this isn’t her fault.

My rescue pup is a lemon and I don’t think I’ll ever get a rescue again. At least not one transported from Texas. We got her at 5 months old and when we met her, she was so scared but the foster mom assured me she would warm up quickly. We’ve had her for 3 months now and while she’s definitely warmed up a lot, she still dislikes my husband and won’t do basic things for him like go outside to potty or go for a walk. She is awesome with our kids and we are so grateful for that. She also follows me around 24/7 which is fine but can be hard because I’m also a mom of 4 young kids that frequently need my attention.

Anyways, she’s still not really potty trained and I think that’s likely because she has spay incontinence. She was spayed at 14 weeks so pretty early (I know rescues have to do this) and she leaves wet spots where she lays a couple times a week. This week she straight up peed herself in her sleep on my bed. My couches are all ruined. She pees all over my rugs and carpet and she also poops and then eats her poop to hide it. We are working on it, we never yell at her. We reward her when she goes potty outside, we take her out frequently. She still has at least 2 accidents a day, she has no tells. Just squats down and pees. We’ve tried bells. I’ll stand outside with her for 30 mins and as soon as we get inside, she goes and pees. I walk her twice a day, she’s never once peed or pooped on a walk. 🤷🏻‍♀️

She has ear infections constantly and my vet is always so booked up, I can never get her in. I finally have an appointment on 2/8 to hopefully treat the ears and spay incontinence.

She’s fearful of people. She runs away and hides when people come in the house. She won’t let anyone pet her (which is the least of my worries but sometimes people think she’s mean because of this) besides me and the kids.

She digs. Because I’m letting her out so often, I’m not able to be outside with her the entire time because I have to watch the kids. But we have a small fenced in yard that I can watch her from our mud room. She has dug holes everywhere. She’s destroyed my blackberry bushes, even digging them out of the ground by the root. She is weird about other dogs, not really aggressive but her fear means her way of engaging is just barking in their face constantly.

I cant figure out how to go back and add this at the beginning but she’s 8 months old now and she’s a ACD, APBT, GSD mix.

She has separation anxiety and screams in the crate but rips carpet up when confined to a room. We don’t leave much, hubby and I work from home but it’s hard to plan around what we will do with her if we have to leave.

She also is constantly having anal gland problems and not only leaving wet urine spots but wet anal juice spots that smell horrid. I’m just so tired. I really love her and we will continue working with her obviously. But I get pretty bummed and overwhelmed when I think about all the work she needs. Just a vent, thanks for listening.