Anyone here have autism?

I got diagnosed last November. I know now why I react the way I do and its ruined my parenthood.

I don't think I'll ever be okay with it now.

I was fine with the early years, loved having a baby. It changed after school started and they got friends and their attitude changed. Around 8 years old it seems.

I have 2 boys, 8 and 12 years old. So with a narky 8 year old (sometimes) and a teen attitude (all the time). I'm at my wits end.

I don't think my wife gets it. Or she doesn't mind as long as I'm out the way. But everything seems to trigger me about actual parenting.

How do people cope?