I don’t make my wife cum anymore.

Married for 16 years to the absolute love of my life. Our sex life the first ten years of marriage was as vanilla as it comes. No foreplay, no oral, no toys just some good old fashioned missionary. We would do that for about 20 minutes and I would cum and she would usually cum around the 40 minute mark. She would go about half the time with the other times me tiring out leaving her sexually frustrated.

We both kind of had a sexual awaking around our ten year mark. Sex is amazing now. We both love to give each other oral, anal happens a couple times a year. We have sex 4-6 times a week. We started using a vibrator during sex and now she cums everytime and usually 2-3 times. I figured out if we lay 69 style I can rub her gspot and finger her ass. In that position she claims she has orgasmed 10 times and her orgasms are a lot bigger than normal ones. But that position is my favorite because well it’s so fucking hot, and she usually finishes me off with her mouth which is my favorite.

Well this morning I was texting her that I hadn’t cum in her pussy for a while and would like too tonight. Then she dropped the bomb on me that I hadn’t made her cum in a really long time too. I guess technically I haven’t made her cum without the vibrator in a really long time. I have never been able to get her to cum with oral or my fingers(I have tried a lot over the years). She can really only cum in missionary or with a vibrator. She says it’s better when it happens naturally and she feels closer to me. Is this a thing? Now that we have been using the vibrator for so long I don’t know if 40 minutes would even be enough. Have any other couples gone through this?