How to deal with aggression?

I'll just be straight forward with this: whenever I get called a girl, remember i'm a girl, or just exist in general, I get extremely aggressive. Like, I'll be unable to control the way I act. I never exibt these types of behaviours apart from anything relating to being a girl, and I hate it. I feel it now just typing this paragraph. It constantly gets me grounded and i'm wondering if anyone has any advice.